Saturday, May 24, 2008

New work will come.....

I haven't posted lately, for two reasons. One is that our house is in the process of being renovated (repaired--- don't ask) from top to bottom, so I haven't been painting. We are having new ceilings installed, new walls put up, old walls taken down, and everything painted. Then all new floors installed on all three levels. That means a lot of construction dust flying around, not to mention having all of our belongings piled here and there to get it out of the way while the work proceeds. We've been living in this upheaval since April 1st, but hopefully we will have our house back to normal within the next couple of weeks.

What has overshadowed the almost two month process of the house reconstruction, though, is that our son left to live and work in Australia. Although he had mentioned Australia in passing a couple of times in the last year, the news that he had decided to go hit us like a sledgehammer. It was a very short time between his telling us his decision and the arrival of the day he would leave, and the days leading up to his departure were the most difficult and sad days I have ever faced.

Australia! So very far away! No more popping home for weekend visits. No more just picking up the phone to talk without having to calculate the time difference and waiting until it's a good time. We are scrambling to try to find the most economical method to communicate, which will probably mean by computer. So hopefully he will be able to set up an internet connection even though he will be on the road a lot, and we will purchase a laptop so we can talk to him from anywhere in the house.

His dad and I find that we are constantly glancing at our watches, only to see what time it is in Sydney. His dad put the Australia map as the photo on his cellphone, which shows him Sydney time every time he opens his phone.

The difficult thing here isn't that he went. For me, it is the possibility that he will love it so much that he won't come back. Who wouldn't love Australia!?
I cannot accept just visits. Visits come to an end. The thought that he might decide to stay permanently scares the heck out of me, and I have not been able to, so far, feel happy for him that he is going after his dream. My sadness over his leaving is still too raw right now to feel anything positive about it. But I'm his mom and I hope I will be excused for not wanting to give him up easily.

Of course I want him to be happy! Of course I want him to acheive his goals! And of course I am very proud of him. But why does it have to happen half a world away?
It couldn't have been easy for him to put all he knows and loves behind him and move to a distant and unknown place, either.
But, that is who he is. Strong. Brave. Stubborn. He knows what he wants and is going after it. As long as he stays focused, he will succeed.

The other day, while packing things out of the way for the work crews and getting rid of old furnishings, I came across a birthday card we had given our son. It struck me that the words in the card, those very words of encouragement that caused me to choose that card in the first place because it said the things I felt in my heart, now gave me prickles of pain because he is making those words a reality. To reach for his dreams, and not let life hold him back, blah blah blah. I actually felt resentment towards the darn card, holding it responsible for maybe having a small part of leading him to make such a life-changing decision.

At least for now, part of his journey in life means he must be in Australia. I will just have to deal with it. I don't want to. But what choice do I have?
I only hope that Australia is a brief detour, that eventually leads him back home.

When our house is back together, I will be able to focus on making paintings. Painting takes me out of my daily hardships and gives me something to apply my thoughts to. With our familys' lives changing all around us, it is the one constant I can depend on.

2 comments:

dcloud said...

Hello balego. I love all your paintings, especially the antique bottle. You have captured the color and reflections in the aqua glass so well it looks like I can actually reach out an touch it. Me and my mom used to go hunting for antique bottles. We'd spend all day searching for older properties and then poke around for where they dumped their bottles.

I can relate to artwork being a means of relaxation and escape; I do the same thing myself. It is great that your son is off chasing his dreams. They say home is where the heart is and I'm sure that no matter where he goes he will always be "at home" in his heart.

balego said...

Thankyou for your comments, dcloud. Having recently browsed around a few antique sales I was amazed at the beautiful colours and designs of many antique bottles. I was fortunate to find this bottle for a very reasonable price, considering many are worth hundreds of dollars. Especially pretty are the poisons... so tiny and with intricate details and jewel-like colours!